Whereas getting pregnant can seem easy for some people, this is not the case for others whose dearest dream is to start a family. More and more women who see their biological clock ticking but have not yet found their life partner are making the decision to have a baby anyway. Others might be in a relationship but their spouse or boyfriend has fertility troubles, making natural conception almost impossible.
Today, sperm donation and assisted reproduction techniques help many single women and infertile couples to eventually fulfill their wish of becoming parents. Whether they are going through the process with a father or without, experiencing fertility problems or perimenopause or not, they are all willing to start a new adventure – one sometimes full of obstacles – in order to have a child of their own.
The journey of finding a sperm donor
Single women or couples who want a baby can find a sperm donor in many places. Some might opt for the anonymity and the privacy of a sperm bank or a fertility clinic. This is a safe solution as the semen is always thoroughly screened by a medical team. Others prefer to ask someone they know, for example, a relative or a close friend. This is a personal decision.
As the demand for donation is high, some websites offer future parents the opportunity to find a donor online via a dedicated platform. The advantage of this solution is being able to read different profiles, followed by chatting and meeting your potential donor in person in order to ensure that he is the right match for you.
Artificial insemination, at-home insemination or IVF: Which method to choose?
Once they’ve found their donor and have completed all the necessary health checks, the parents-to-be face several choices. The right method for becoming pregnant can depend on the woman’s age and whether she is experiencing any fertility troubles. One popular option is to perform an at-home insemination with a conception kit that contains everything you need for the process. After collecting the sample, the woman can inseminate herself with a needleless syringe in the comfort of her own bedroom, for instance.
Another solution is to go to a fertility clinic and let the medical staff perform the insemination. One way or another, it’s important to seek medical advice from professionals beforehand. Reading blog posts might not be enough to know everything you need.
If several attempts at artificial insemination do not work, the mom-to-be may have IVF (in vitro fertilization) recommended to her. Her eggs (or those of a donor, depending on her fertility issues) will be fertilized by sperm in a laboratory before being transferred to her womb.
Choosing a donor who plays a role in the child’s life
If you select a donor from a sperm bank, you probably don’t want the father to be involved in your child’s life. Sometimes, single women or couples (for instance, same-sex couples) might want something a little different.
Opting for a known donor, such as a friend or a donor found via the internet, gives the parent-to-be the option of deciding whether the donor will have responsibilities and rights towards their child. The single woman or the couple can decide to co-parent with the biological father and bring up their kid together. For some men, the act of donating sperm goes beyond just giving semen to someone in need. It is a true commitment and a desire to become a dad.