Want to Get Your Ex Back? These 6 Mistakes Will Kill Your Chances for Good

Breakups happen, and it’s quite likely that breaking up is not what both partners wanted to happen. However, after the breakup, when someone does want to get back together with their ex, there is a chance it will happen. However, they do need to be careful with what they do and how they act during and after the breakup. This can have a huge impact on whether their ex will be interested in getting back together with them and what will happen after they are back together. 

Attempting Contact Right Away

It’s hard to completely cease contact, but it’s necessary. After a breakup, most people need some time to work through their emotions, decide what they want, and figure out what the next steps should be. One tip for getting your ex-girlfriend back is to avoid contacting them and simply wait. During this time, work on getting back in shape, having fun, and making new friends. Attempting to contact the ex, especially repeatedly, will only lead to the ex getting upset and deciding they never want to get back together. 

Being Too Emotional During the Breakup 

Breakups are hard on everyone involved and they are an emotional time, but it’s important to not get too emotional during the actual breakup. Someone who is too emotional will likely cry, make a scene if the breakup happens in public, and try to beg their ex to stay with them. This ends up having the exact opposite outcome than what they might hope for. Instead, they should calmly accept the breakup, even though it is hard, and wait to find a better outlet for their emotions. The person can cry when they’re home alone and take time to really go through all of the emotions from the breakup in a healthy way, but they should avoid making a huge scene in front of their ex during or shortly after the breakup. 

Speaking Poorly About Them

Some people will get angry when their partner breaks up with them. This is natural, as they may have thought there was a future together and are now upset that the future may not come to pass. However, no matter how angry or upset the person is, they should never speak poorly about their ex. The things someone says will likely be heard by the ex’s friends or family, and it will get back to the ex. When the ex finds out their prior partner is speaking poorly about them, they’re definitely not going to want to get back together. The ex will feel bad about what’s being said and will not want anything to do with the person going forward. Instead, the person should avoid speaking about their ex or, if that can’t be avoided, at least steer clear of saying anything that will come across as negative. 

Try to Pursue One of their Friends

Some people tend to jump into a new relationship to try to mask their pain from a breakup and to start feeling better again. Others may start dating immediately to try to make their ex jealous. While this isn’t necessarily a bad thing to date someone new, if they want to get back together with their ex, the person should avoid trying to date their ex’s friends. There are plenty of people they may be interested in dating, but if they date someone in the same friend circle as their ex, the ex will find out about it. When this happens, the ex is going to assume the person has moved on. It’s not likely going to make the ex jealous so they want to get back together. An alternative is to look for people outside of the friend circle to date, even if it may be more difficult to get out and meet new people. 

Threaten Self-Harm

A major mistake is to threaten self-harm or suicide. If someone is feeling like they will harm themselves or commit suicide after a breakup, they should not say that to their ex. Instead, they should seek help from a professional or call the national suicide hotline so they can begin getting the mental health help they need. It’s natural to feel like the world is changing and the entire situation is horrible, but it’s not natural to make threats during a breakup. If this does happen, the ex will likely feel their decision to break up was the right one and that it’s necessary to move on as fast as possible. During the breakup, the person should be careful with what they say to avoid this and to make sure they aren’t just saying things to make their ex feel upset. If they do feel like they will harm themselves, professional help, not help from the ex, is crucial. 

Begging for One More Chance

Something else that tends to happen after a breakup is one of the partners begging for another chance. While the hope is that the ex will end up listening and giving them the extra chance, it’s not likely to help. If the ex does decide to try one more time, the relationship is likely doomed. Neither partner has taken the needed break from the relationship or taken the time to think about what can be done to improve the relationship. Instead, it’s going to be better to avoid begging, take some time to recover from the breakup, and then see what happens. If the partners get back together after this, they’ll likely have a much stronger relationship. 

If your ex has broken up with you, making these mistakes will almost guarantee you never get back together with them. Instead, it’s important to be careful with how you act during and after the breakup. Avoiding these mistakes might make it more likely you can get back together with your ex and, if you do get back together, it’s likely that you’ll have a better relationship with them in the long run.