Most people think that being a stay-at-home mom (SAHM) is all about soft, happy, and cozy moments with their little ones, but in reality, most women who choose to stay at home full time are struggling with depression and loneliness. According to a study, more than 50 percent of Canadian moms feel lonely and socially isolated. While it’s okay to feel down sometimes, feeling constantly depressed can have a negative impact on your mental health and relationships, so finding ways to cope with your emotions should always be a priority. Here’s how stay-at-home moms can rise up against loneliness and depression.
Stay connected and find a way to socialize
Stay-at-home moms often think twice before sharing their feelings or worries as society views staying at home as a blessing. Most people don’t know that being a SAHM means that you spend your days making meals, doing laundry, supervising school work, keeping the house clean, and other never-ending tasks that can leave one exhausted and feeling unfulfilled. To avoid feeling resentful or lonely, you need to find a way to stay connected with friends and do other non-mom related activities.
Keep in mind that you’re more than just a stay-at-home mom, you’re also a human being who needs to interact with people in order to thrive. So go on and have coffee with your friends, or schedule a day at the salon with your bestie. If you can’t leave the house, organize a group chat with your loved ones. The key is to stay connected so you won’t feel isolated while you’re on this parenting journey.
Pursue your passion
Being a mom doesn’t mean disregarding your interests or hobbies. While your family’s needs may be on the top of your priority list, it’s essential to make time for the things that make you feel good as being happy can benefit you in so many ways. Not only will it be good for you, but studies have shown that children with happy moms have a reduced risk of developing mental health issues later on.
Also, avoid thinking that there’s no way you can pursue your interests if you’re needed by the kids at home. You can always do things in a different way. So for instance, if you like to throw parties and get togethers, go on and host an online celebration such as baby showers for your friends, and make sure everyone has a good time. Meanwhile, if you love visiting public botanical gardens, why not cultivate a garden in your backyard space, or just have a few more houseplants in your home. If you’ve always toyed with the idea of becoming a fiction writer, perhaps now is the time to start writing that book. The idea is to pursue your passion no matter what it is, and make time for it.
Don’t feel guilty
Moms on social media have made being a SAHM more of a challenge as they’ve made staying at home look so easy and stylish. But don’t feel guilty about that haphazardly organized bookshelf, or the fact that it’s 2pm and your kids are still dressed in pajamas. This is real life, and real life is often messy, disorganized, and chaotic. Never compare yourself to other moms, and keep in mind that most likely, beside that carefully curated bookcase on Pinterest is a jam-smeared toddler or a pile of paperwork.
Being a stay-at-home mom comes with a few challenges, but remember to take some time for yourself and find ways to be in your happy space. Take care of yourself and your family, and don’t be afraid to seek help if you need it.