You’re in love with your spouse, but something still doesn’t feel right. You can’t put your finger on it. What could it be? Believe it or not, you’re not alone. Most people miss these warning signs of an impending divorce.
Your Spouse Stops Complaining About Stuff
Who would ever think this is a sign your marriage is on the rocks? Well, if you resent your other half, or if they resent you, that’s a major problem. When a spouse stops complaining, it’s because apathy is setting in.
Married couples care about each other. They complain because they often want something or are concerned about their other half.
Rodriguez-Nanney, Annapolis, MD divorce attorneys, often see this type of thing in separations and when one spouse finally decides to make the split a reality. When a spouse becomes apathetic, it means that he or she no longer cares about the relationship.
And, when that happens, the only logical endgame is a divorce.
You Both Focus On The Kids, Not Yourselves
Children can place an incredible pressure on a marriage. And, children do have to come first at times. But, if you’re taking so much time out for your kids, and leaving none for yourselves, that’s a problem.
You’re More Interested In Other Couples Than Your Own Marriage
Do you look longingly at another couple and wish that was your marriage? Making comparisons with others is one of the biggest red flags ever. You should be looking at your own marriage for inspiration, not others. And, if there are problems, focus on them. Wishing you were like another couple means that you’re already thinking about being out of this marriage and in a different relationship.
Your Friendships Are More Important Than Your Marriage
Friends are important – no doubt. But, they shouldn’t be more important than your own marriage. If you can’t be bothered to talk to your spouse about problems you’re having and, instead, are seeking out the companionship and advice of friends, you’re heading down a dangerous road.
You Stop Wondering What Your Spouse Is Thinking Or Doing
You should be wondering about your spouse. Maybe not all the time, but it should be on your mind quite often. If you never wonder what your spouse is thinking or doing, it means that you’re becoming more and more apathetic. Like not complaining about the “usual stuff,” not thinking about what your spouse is doing or thinking means your mind is wandering and you’re shutting down, emotionally.
Your Sex Drives Are Not In Sync
Any changes in your sex drive are probably not a good sign. If your sex drives are out of sync, then examine things more closely. An obvious loss of interest in sex with you is significant. If you lose interest in sex, that’s a sign too. Also, watch for changes in lovemaking style and who initiates sex. According to Divorce Lawyer Marilyn Stowe and couples counselor Carole Nyman, these types of things quickly result in a feeling of rejection, which often signals the beginning of the end of the relationship.
Ms. Rodriguez-Nanney received her Juris Doctor degree from the University of Maryland School of Law in 1997. While in Law School, Ms. Rodriguez-Nanney was a member of the Maryland Journal of Contemporary Legal Issues, a member of the Latino Law Student’s Association and volunteered with the Public Justice Center, Inc. Ms. Rodriguez-Nanney is an experienced immigration attorney. She also handles domestic matters such as adoptions, custody disputes and divorce proceedings and understands the intricacies of domestic law.