The most important components for a good relationship


If you want a strong relationship, it helps to have a strong foundation. Some things matter relatively little. Others have a major impact on the odds of the relationship working at all.

Here are the most important things for establishing a solid foundation for a relationship that can go the distance:

1. Shared Values
Many people marry someone of the same faith because it’s an easy way to try to look for someone with similar values. But it’s not a foolproof method. Sometimes those similarities are only skin deep.

Shared values are an essential component of a solid relationship that has the power to last. It isn’t necessary to be the same religion to find this kind of compatibility. You will know what people really value by their deeds, not their words. People who do the same kinds of things, such as volunteer work, will get along better than someone who seemingly talks a good game.

2. Compatible Visions For Your Respective Futures
You don’t necessarily have to have the same vision for your future. If one of you wants a career and the other wants to be a parent, these can be perfectly compatible visions. But if one of you wants to be a hermit in a tiny house on a mountain and the other wants to have six kids in the suburbs, now you have a big problem.

Talk to your partner about what kind of future they see for themselves. See if your vision for your own future can walk beside that vision comfortably. If not, it may be easier to find a different partner than to try to figure out how to do this dance without stepping all over each other’s feet. You can learn more about how to make better decisions here at

3. Sexual Compatibility
If you are looking for a long-term, monogamous relationship, there is no getting around the fact that you need to be happy making love to this person for years to come. Sexual compatibility is high on the list of things that can make or break a long-term relationship.

Affairs are devastating, even if they don’t lead to terrible infections or unexpected pregnancies. One of the best ways to ensure that your relationship will not be vulnerable to such drama is to make sure you are compatible in bed.

4. Mutual Respect
If you genuinely respect each other, you will both listen when there is a disagreement and you will be able to hash things out. If that basic respect isn’t there, this process will fall apart when you most need it to work.

This may be the most important element of a good relationship. You should respect each other in both senses of the word: You should hold each other in high esteem and you should be mindful of each other’s boundaries.

If you can pull off both of those, you will be well ahead of most relationships. Mutual respect will help your relationship weather many storms that could otherwise destroy the relationship.

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LaDonna Dennis

LaDonna Dennis is the founder and creator of Mom Blog Society. She wears many hats. She is a Homemaker*Blogger*Crafter*Reader*Pinner*Friend*Animal Lover* Former writer of Frost Illustrated and, Cancer...SURVIVOR! LaDonna is happily married to the love of her life, the mother of 3 grown children and "Grams" to 3 grandchildren. She adores animals and has four furbabies: Makia ( a German Shepherd, whose mission in life is to be her attached to her hip) and Hachie, (an OCD Alaskan Malamute, and Akia (An Alaskan Malamute) who is just sweet as can be. And Sassy, a four-month-old German Shepherd who has quickly stolen her heart and become the most precious fur baby of all times. Aside from the humans in her life, LaDonna's fur babies are her world.

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It’s a great read! Thank you for your recommendations. It is important to always understand that a strong family relationship is a constant work on them! If you want to keep them and avoid divorce, then think about it every day!