How To Bring The Zest Back To a Decade Old Marriage


When Mark and I first met, there was enough zest to ignite a stack of fireworks without the use of a physical flame! We lavished in romantic candlelit dinners, exotic vacations, secluded picnics and, even hot steamy jacuzzi nights complete with wine. Of course my initial attraction to Mark was um, shall I say “his magnificently proportionate body”? WOW, he was and; after all these years is still HOT! And while I sill find my hubby as sexy as ever, I’ve noticed a serious decline in the romance department over the last decade. As with just about all marriages, “life” got the better of us. With five kids and two demanding careers, we’ve lost the zest we once thrived on. Recently we began discussing the “lack” of romance, adventure and excitement in our decade-old-marriage. The one thing we realized is, we love each other more than we did ten-years ago. But we both still craved the much needed zest we once shared.

If there was one thing we knew for sure at the end of the conversation, it was that we needed to “spice-up” our love life a bit. The biggest obstacle we faced was “time”. Both of us have extremely demanding careers, and as I’ve already stated five demanding kiddos. After a little brainstorming we realized that once a month all five kiddos go for an over-night stay with grams and gramps. We typically use this alone time to veg in-front of the TV and bask in the glorious silence our home holds for the next twenty-four hours.

We’ve decided to dedicate this kid-free time to “our time”. And so, with the kids away on Saturday morning I woke up to breakfast with a view, cooked by my hubby! Wow, I hadn’t realized just how much our lives had chanced since we first met.

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After our nice quiet, romantic breakfast we went for a long walk around our property. We realized just how important it is to our relationship to have one-on-one time with each other. We’ve made a promise to keep this new found romance going in our marriage. Some of the things we’ve decided to incorporate are simple and fitting to our busy schedules.

  • Romantic Dinner at home
  • Take long walks and hold hands
  • Picnics
  • Movie Night
  • Wine and Conversation Night (No TV, No Phones, No Tech Gadgets)

Let’s be honest, after a decade of marriage, things tend to get boring. And in many cases, as a result end in divorce. For my family we don’t believe in divorce, so that is out of the question. However, we also don’t want each other to live a long miserable life. We owe it to our marriage to keep the zest alive and each other happy.



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LaDonna Dennis

LaDonna Dennis is the founder and creator of Mom Blog Society. She wears many hats. She is a Homemaker*Blogger*Crafter*Reader*Pinner*Friend*Animal Lover* Former writer of Frost Illustrated and, Cancer...SURVIVOR! LaDonna is happily married to the love of her life, the mother of 3 grown children and "Grams" to 3 grandchildren. She adores animals and has four furbabies: Makia ( a German Shepherd, whose mission in life is to be her attached to her hip) and Hachie, (an OCD Alaskan Malamute, and Akia (An Alaskan Malamute) who is just sweet as can be. And Sassy, a four-month-old German Shepherd who has quickly stolen her heart and become the most precious fur baby of all times. Aside from the humans in her life, LaDonna's fur babies are her world.

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