Anyone who’s ever been a parent of a teenager can tell you it can be a tumultuous experience, to say the least. Rebellious teens are nothing short of stressful and can push you to your absolute limits of impatience. However, it’s important to understand that this rebelliousness is actually a normal part of growing up.
Believe it or not, this rebelliousness is actually in truth a period of self-exploration. Teens are testing their limits, which manifests itself as being defiant.
However, please know that this defiance is a perfectly natural part of coming into their own. However, that doesn’t make it any less difficult for parents! To help you, here are some of the best tips for effectively handling rebellious teenagers.
Simply telling your teens they’re being “bad” isn’t enough to dissuade them from continuing the bad behavior. It’s important that you explain the consequences of continuing the bad behavior. You may even want to consider asking a police officer to talk about their experience dealing with troubled teenagers.
This can be beneficial for your teenager as well as you, not to mention it’s a way of supporting the police force. The earlier you can explain to your children the consequences of rebellious behavior, the sooner they’ll have respect for the law.
Effective communication is critical when it comes to dealing with rebellious teenagers. Being honest and clear with your language is an important way to not only express your needs, but also encourage your child to express theirs. You want to make sure that they feel like they’ll be heard, whether or not you agree or not.
Open lines of communication are critical when it comes to a two way dialogue that fosters mutual respect. Remember, open communication doesn’t mean you need to tolerate verbal abuse or disrespectful language. It means you should lead by example by encouraging open honest and consistent communication.
Choose Your Battles
When dealing with a disrespectful or rebellious teenager, you’re better off choosing your battles. After all, if you get riled up about every little thing that happens, you’re going to eventually burn out. Know which circumstances call for serious concern, and know which others can be let go.
Prioritize your concerns for behavior that affects safety and health and school performance. Not everything always requires confrontation or punishment.
Rather than constantly criticizing them and pointing out what they are doing wrong, don’t forget to point out what they’re doing right once in a while. A little encouragement goes a long way, especially with a teen who’s going through a hard time.
Remember, most of the time teens aren’t rebellious because it’s fun. They’re rebellious because they’re trying to navigate this challenging chapter of their life between child and adult. Be compassionate, and above all, be patient!