Having a child with special needs can be very difficult. Parents need to do their best to get over any thoughts of being let down by having a special child, and they need to get on with the process of figuring out how to raise and love their child with success.
A good percentage of parents have no idea how to go about raising special children; there are big difference between “regular” and “special” children when it comes to the rearing process. There are 6 important keys to remember when thinking about the process.
Key #1: Figure out your kids personality.
Do not expect your new child to have a normal personality, and do not take out frustrations on them. Mother’s are especially good at sensing and figuring out personality traits and quirks naturally.
Key #2: There is a reason you were blessed with a special needs kid.
Remember that you are blessed, not cursed, with the responsibility of raising and caring for a special needs child. Try to maintain a positive attitude, even when times are rough.
Key #3: Positive motivation is important.
It is easy to get depressed with the inevitable setbacks that will occur while raising your special kid. Try to come up with routines and skills to keep yourself motivated toward positive ends every day. Remember, your child will be a reflection of you, and staying motivated can only help.
Key #4: Try to avoid anger.
Anger is not good, especially when it comes to special children.
They do not have the ability to understand why you are angry, so your outbursts cannot possibly have a positive impact. Their reaction to your anger could also be highly unpredictable, so avoid anger if at all possible.
Key #5: Patience is the most important thing.
A special needs child will not learn, react, or develop as quickly as a normal child. It will be easy during the process to feel impatient and expect results when they will not come. Remember that being patient will yield by far the best results.
Key #6: Do NOT be afraid to ask for advice.
When the going gets really rough, do not try to work out issues by yourself. There are professionals and experts who can help with every aspect related to your new child.
Feeling overwhelmed is normal in your situation, and you should never be ashamed to ask for assistance.
Raising special needs children can be incredibly difficult, but because of this the rewards are that much better. When you see your child make positive steps, you will know your are raising them right.