Why You Should Let Your Tween Redo Their Room When They Ask


Your little one is growing up and transitioning into a teenager. It was bound to happen, but you thought you had some time left. Your natural instincts could scream for them to keep their puppy dogs and butterflies on the walls in their bedroom, but is that what they need? Tweens are entering a time of transformation, searching for their identity and ways to express themselves. Let them–here’s why. 

Conveys Trust

Allowing your child to decorate their space is essential to them. Giving them the freedom to express themselves creatively and take ownership of their space conveys a sense of trust that’s vital to their teenage years. You want to establish a solid foundation of trust before they reach the age of rebellion and self-discovery. 

Tweens often begin to distance themselves from their parents to allow room for self-reflection and independent thinking. They may not realize the reasons behind their distancing–they’re just following their instincts. Giving them a chance to process and work through their emotions by redoing their room can make them feel safe and provide them with a private space that they identify with security. 

Allowing your tween to remodel or redecorate their room is a small gesture that can mean a great deal to them. It can show them that their voice and what they desire matter to you, which can instill confidence and convey trust. Try not to be critical of their decisions because it can and will backfire. Trust their decisions unless they ask for your input or help, conveying a level of trust they will feel and appreciate. 

Fosters Decision Making 

From the color and type of paint finish to wall decor and storage space, redoing a tween’s room involves many decisions. Allowing your child the freedom to make these decisions independently can set them up for success. It offers an opportunity to teach them about the effects and consequences of their choices. For example, if they choose the wrong type of paint finish, it can alter the color of their room, which isn’t an easy fix, so they’ll have to live with it or start from scratch. 

Constantly making decisions for your child can limit their creative and critical thinking skills, although that isn’t your intention. You must give them the space to make independent decisions to prepare them for their future. The decision-making process will only get more complex as they get older, so starting to nurture it now can really help them on their path to adulthood.  

Boosts Creativity 

Having the freedom to redecorate a room any way you want can be liberating. It’s almost like giving your tween a blank canvas and watching their wheels start to churn about what they’re going to put on it. It can be exciting and allow them to flex their creative muscles. 

As they ponder what decor they want or how they want their room to look, they generate ideas and explore options to consider to make their room feel like their own. Do you remember being their age? How did redecorating your room make you feel? It is their room, after all. Allowing them to express themselves creatively is vital to nourishing their growth. It can facilitate self-expression and helps them find their unique style, which all tweens grapple with. 

Promotes Independence

Tweens are often in self-discovery mode trying to navigate their new sense of self and discover their passions, interests, and ideas. Redecorating their room can give them an outlet to express themselves and help them discover their interests, which can give them direction. They might love redecorating their room so much that they decide to pursue an interior design path. 

Or, they could find that they very much dislike painting, which can steer them away from that career choice. Redoing a room involves mulling over ideas from start to finish. They first must come up with designs, decor, photos, furniture, and how or if they want to cover their wall space. Then, they put the plan into action step by step before they see results. 

Benefits of a Redoing a Room 

Being in a space that you created is a feeling unlike any other that comes with many benefits. A redecorated space can boost your creativity and productivity and provide increased focus and attention. Additionally, something as simple as rearranging your furniture can transform your space, providing myriad mental health benefits. 

Rearranging furniture can provide a sense of safety, enhance creativity and encourage you to accept change. Redoing your room can also give you a sense of satisfaction, facilitating confidence when completing the task. These benefits can nurture your tween and help them grow and learn about who they are and who they’re becoming. 

Giving Your Tween’s Room a Makeover 

Tweens often challenge themselves and their parents in various ways as they find their footing. Pressure from their peers, more difficult educational obligations and newfound responsibilities can make finding themselves confusing and tumultuous. A refreshed space can give them a sense of security–a space that is all theirs and theirs alone.

About Author

LaDonna Dennis

LaDonna Dennis is the founder and creator of Mom Blog Society. She wears many hats. She is a Homemaker*Blogger*Crafter*Reader*Pinner*Friend*Animal Lover* Former writer of Frost Illustrated and, Cancer...SURVIVOR! LaDonna is happily married to the love of her life, the mother of 3 grown children and "Grams" to 3 grandchildren. She adores animals and has four furbabies: Makia ( a German Shepherd, whose mission in life is to be her attached to her hip) and Hachie, (an OCD Alaskan Malamute, and Akia (An Alaskan Malamute) who is just sweet as can be. And Sassy, a four-month-old German Shepherd who has quickly stolen her heart and become the most precious fur baby of all times. Aside from the humans in her life, LaDonna's fur babies are her world.

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