Mama, Don’t Let Your Baby Grow Up to be Catfished!


A few years ago, two teens were attending University of Virginia. Jackie wanted Duffin, but he didn’t return the affection. So Jackie invented a boy named “Haven Monahan” who began texting Duffin and claiming to have feelings for Jackie. In Sep 2012, Jackie told Duffin that while on a date with Haven Monahan, she was gang-raped by several upperclassmen.

The story went viral, University of Virginia’s name was dragged through the mud, Rolling Stone Magazine wrote a sensational article about rapes on college campuses. After a lengthy, expensive, and exhaustive investigation by the university, VA police, and others, it was determined that no rape occurred; no one named Haven Monahan had ever attended UVa. In short, a teenage infatuation upturned several lives, launched several court cases, and has potentially ruined several lies. The practice of inventing fake online personas to validate or test the intentions of a lover or dethrone a romantic rival is known as “catfishing”.

Duffin isn’t the 1st victim of catfishing, nor will Jackie be the last catfisher. Page 100 of UNPLUGGED has several examples of catfish victims, and MTV has a popular show of the same name that showcases this growing practice. As we approach Valentine’s day, I strongly urge you to have a conversation with your middle school / high school / college kids about catfishing. Teach them that catfishing is NOT a harmless joke – it could land them in jail, or worse. And teach them to be skeptical of what they read online, the texts, tweets, snapchats, and 

Digital come-ons they get. 

Not every pretty girl is who she claims to be.

Not every Romeo will sweep you off your feet.

Some of them may be an ex out to break your heart; others may be professional crooks out to drain your back account.

Wear your heart on your sleeve, fall madly in love, and above all, TRUST BUT VERIFY.

Be well, stay safe, do good in the world.


Author, entrepreneur, IT expert and public speaker, Raj Goel is globally known as the go-to man in cyber security and privacy law. He is committed to educating individuals and organizations about online safety and how to protect their most important assets – people and data. His expert advice helps individuals, companies and conglomerates navigate their way through the world’s ever-changing technology and increasingly complex IT compliance laws. He often appears in the media and at conferences world-wide to educate the public on cyber-security and digital privacy, a subject he is passionate about.

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Reference Links: Washington Post | Amazon | MTV | Wikipedia


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UNPLUGGED Luddites’ Guide To Cybersecurity
What to teach your Kids AND Grandparents before they access the internet
Raj Goel, CISSP
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LaDonna Dennis

LaDonna Dennis is the founder and creator of Mom Blog Society. She wears many hats. She is a Homemaker*Blogger*Crafter*Reader*Pinner*Friend*Animal Lover* Former writer of Frost Illustrated and, Cancer...SURVIVOR! LaDonna is happily married to the love of her life, the mother of 3 grown children and "Grams" to 3 grandchildren. She adores animals and has four furbabies: Makia ( a German Shepherd, whose mission in life is to be her attached to her hip) and Hachie, (an OCD Alaskan Malamute, and Akia (An Alaskan Malamute) who is just sweet as can be. And Sassy, a four-month-old German Shepherd who has quickly stolen her heart and become the most precious fur baby of all times. Aside from the humans in her life, LaDonna's fur babies are her world.

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